Facing Age : A Practical Guide
As the baby-boomers age, increasing numbers of people are facing difficult questions about the care of their parents and how they themselves will cope with retirement. Facing Age is a practical self-help guide that explains how mainstream professionals deal with ageing, death and its aftermath. Ageing is considered from three points of view: The ageing parents; The family; Individuals concerns. Facing Age provides immediate practical advice on a wide range of relevant issues, including making the most of retirement, choosing the right accommodation, dealing with family disputes, accessing health services, managing funerals and the estate, and coping with personal change.
Nancye Bourke worked as an occupational therapist for thirty years in Canada, England and New Zealand, and has been involved in the development of modern professional services for older people. Subsequently she became a retirement planning facilitator with a large corporation, trained as a telephone counsellor and worked as a volunteer for a national organisation. She now lives in Auckland and runs a small family business with her husband.
PART 1: AGING PARENTS 1 WHAT IS AGING? 2 POSITIVE AGING Why bother to plan for your future? 3 POSITIVE RETIREMENT PLANNING Money management Healthy living Housing Personal safety Partnerships and family Filling in your retirement years Legal matters Funeral planning 4 FAILING HEALTH 5 MANAGING FAILING HEALTH How can you help yourself? How can others help you? Community-based health services Hospital-based health services Assessment service for older people Housing Options for Older People 6 IT CAN HELP TO KNOW Living with a disability Understanding depression and confusion Elder abuse and neglect Preventing elder abuse and neglect Health and Disability Code of Rights 7 FACING DEATH IN OLD AGE How will your family face death? 8 AFTER DEATH 9 THE FUNERAL Setting a time and place for the funeral What sort of funerals are there? After the funeral 10 SETTLING THE ESTATE PART 2: THE FAMILY 11 WHY DO FAMILies MATTER? The Family Story Family Harmony 12 MANAGING CHANGE Parents? retirement Moving from the family home Parents? health ? sudden illness Parents? health ? chronic illness, disability and frailty Scattered family visiting Moving to residential care Death and funeral of a parent/partner Settling the estate Unavailable to help Family secrets PART 3: YOURSELF 13 LOOKING AFTER YOURSELF Remaining positive Grief Depression Stress Anger A FINAL WORD APPENDIX FORMS AND CHECKLISTS Group A Retirement budget Positive retirement planning Personal information Required by executor Location of documents People to be notified Distribution of personal items Group B Choosing low-level residential care (Rest homes or Hostels) Choosing high-level residential care (Long-stay hospitals or Nursing homes) FURTHER INFORMATION BIBLIOGRAPHY